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Disciplining Your ‘Tween and Teen

March 2019

Full interview with Dr. John Gibbs: https://youtu.be/e5KRmUlT5ck

COLUMBUS, Ohio. (Ivanhoe Newswire) — What do you do when your teen or ‘tween lets you down? You could dole out punishment or take away their privileges, but developmental psychologists say that another option for correcting teens could set them on the path toward becoming good adults.

One minute, you’re breaking up sibling battles and enforcing time-outs. The next, your toddler’s a ‘tween or teen and the transgressions become different. Charlotte Sullivan knows her parents get mad when she leaves a mess.

Charlotte told Ivanhoe that she leaves “dirty dishes or socks on the floor … which I do … a lot.”

For dad Jason, it’s not what his 12-year-old does, but what she sometimes says.

“Charlotte’s typical teen sarcasm gets a little disrespectful and my voice is going to get a little sharp,” detailed Jason.

Developmental psychologist at The Ohio State University, John Gibbs, PhD, surveyed ‘tweens and teens in grades five, eight, and ten to measure the type of discipline kids get at home. The researchers found benefits when parents used something called inductive discipline.

“You’re trying to induce in the child this notion that the transgression, whatever it was, adversely affected others,” explained Gibbs.

For example, instead of taking away cell phones or grounding them, a parent disciplining a preteen or teen might say, “I never expected that kind of behavior from you. I have faith in you. I expect better from you next time.”

“If the child cares about the relationship with the parent, that’s going to make an impact,” said Gibbs.

The Sullivans say Charlotte’s a good kid and, when needed, a little inductive discipline goes a long way.

Jason said, “She feels bad she crossed the line.”

The researchers found that teens whose parents were more likely to use inductive discipline felt they would be more accepted by their parents afterward, compared with teens whose parents used other forms of discipline. Also, the researchers found that teens who felt accepted after inductive discipline cared more about being a moral person.

Contributors to this news report include: Cyndy McGrath, Supervising and Field Producer; Milvionne Chery, News Producer; Roque Correa, Editor; Kirk Manson, Videographer.

Produced by Child Trends News Service in partnership with Ivanhoe Broadcast News and funded by a grant from the National Science Foundation.


Spanish Translation

COLUMBUS, Ohio. (Ivanhoe Newswire) — ¿Como reaccionar cuando un adolescente te desilusiona? Se le puede castigar o privarle de algo que valora, pero hoy los expertos nos presentan una nueva forma de corregir el comportamiento de los adolescentes que ayuda a tornarlos en adultos con buenos valores.

Un momento estás evitando peleas entre hermanos o imponiendo el castigo. Pestañeas y tu hijo es un adolescente y las desobediencias y los errores son otros. Charlotte Sullivan sabe que lo que enerva a sus padre es el desorden. Para su padre, el problema no es tanto lo que Charlotte hace, pero lo que a veces dice. El psicólogo experto en desarrollo John Gibbs estudió a niños y adolescentes en quinto, octavo y décimo grado para determinar qué tipo de disciplina recibían en la casa.

Determino que la forma más efectiva era aquella llamada disciplina inductiva o racional. Por ejemplo, en vez de castigarlos o quitarles el celular, los padres de adolescentes pueden decir “nunca esperé esto de ti, confió en que la próxima vez harás las cosas en forma correcta”. Los padres de Charlotte saben que una dosis de lógica y una de disciplina son la receta para crear un adulto de provecho.

Según el estudio, los adolescentes cuyos padres usaban disciplina inductiva se sentían más aceptados por sus padres después de un incidente que otros jóvenes que recibieron otro tipo de castigos. Asimismo, el estudio determinó que a estos adolescentes les preocupaba más ser una persona con buenos valores.

Los contribuyentes a este reportaje incluyen: Cyndy McGrath, Supervisora  Y Productora de Campo; Milvionne Chery, Productora; Roque Correa, Editor; Kirk Manson, Camarógrafo.

Producido por Child Trends News Service en asocio con Ivanhoe Broadcast News y auspiciado por una beca de la National Science Foundation.